2008 was the year my proclamation was to say YES to doors that open for me in an attempt to get closer to realizing my dreams. I needed to ‘find my thing’. I was tired and frustrated and anxious. How was it that I could be so accomplished in so many areas – taking care of things, taking care of others, working my way up the corporate ladder and juggling a life in between, but I still hadn’t landed on that piece of me that felt like I was doing exactly the thing that defined me?


That April something shifted in me.

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I was perusing the book isle at Costco – something that became a well-established routine for me. I always had an eye out for Personal Development, Leadership and Success books. I had been studying and relishing these fields for over twenty years.

It was there that I stumbled across THE PASSION TEST. This book had a profound impact on me.


There was no doubt I was very well read in these areas. I could have the deepest philosophical conversations about life, purpose, success, wealth and why we’re even here. My head knowledge was very well informed. And I took pride in that.

But something about me didn’t quite have the believability about what I was saying. I could talk about the principles, but I was not living them in practice. I was saying one thing about life and freedom and success, but I was living a lifestyle created out of conformity and sacrifice while balancing and supporting other people’s agenda’s.

I was trying to do what’s right, follow moral principles, be a good person. Those are all great traits, but the reason I was doing them was to be accepted – by my spouse, my family, my boss, my colleagues, my community, and my neighborhood – by just about everyone but ME. It looked like I was doing all the right things. I was even getting great results that proved it. All of that ‘put on your big girl panties and do the right thing’ activity left me DRAINED and so far removed from generating accomplishments that I felt I still wanted to achieve.


Don’t get me wrong, I was living a good life, it just wasn’t a life that called out the best of me. It wasn’t a life that was utilizing or developing my unique gifts and talents. Some part of me always knew this. That part of me was in a constant search for it. There was always this underlying unsettling within me.

Sound familiar?


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As hard as I tried to address that part of me, I wasn’t able to get it handled. It wasn’t until the life I had, the life that I thought was so stable, crumbled beneath me.

Many would say that I failed and believe me, it felt that way at the time. But what I have come to understand is that I was perfectly on time to shift my life into the exact place I had been looking for. It wasn’t easy. It took a lot of work. What I lived through I now use with my clients to streamline their Success journey.



Here are a few things I now know for sure that don’t work and some tips on what does. You only hear or see things at exactly the right time, even if it has crossed your path many times before. I’m sharing this here with you today because it may be exactly the right time for you to hear it.



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In this busy day and age we are forced to juggle so many responsibilities. We want to do it all. We want to have it all. In doing so, we divide our attention which depletes our capacity to perform.

You have to decide what you want. If you are not getting the results you want in a particular area, take a look at where you are dividing your time. If it’s important, give it the singular attention required. Decide if it needs consistent time scheduled on your calendar and commit to it




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For years, I indulged in reading about Success and Leadership and Personal Development. I loved it. I learned a lot. I even had some notable results as a result. It did help me to formulate my thoughts on the topic and open up my awareness of what it takes to be successful.

What it didn’t do for me is help me to really understand what it takes to be successful. It’s not until you get in the water that you realize what it takes to swim.

Notice if there’s an area of your life where you want a particular result, but don’t yet have it. Are you engaged in it or just pretending so you don’t get wet.

Notice if there’s an area of your life where you want a particular result, but don’t yet have it. Are you engaged in it or just pretending so you don’t get wet.
Make a decision about what you need to do differently so that you are in the middle of that pool swimming. Get wet.



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Have you ever had the experience of being introduced to someone you knew wanted to be somewhere else, maybe with someone else, maybe someone more important than you? You can just feel it in your bones, can’t you? It makes you feel like you don’t want to be around that person either. There’s good reason for that.

We are extremely intuitive beings. You can read people without them having to say a word. It’s true, we do get it wrong from time to time. But, admit it – you can tell a fake smile from a mile away. It’s a trait you can develop with conscious practice.

Tuning into people or circumstances that do not genuinely support your efforts will slow you down or even take you off course. This is where you need to be extremely guarded about what you allow or cut out. Begin by examining how you’ve set up your day-to-day life. Stop tolerating what does no longer supports what you want.



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It isn’t until you get in the game, get your hands dirty that you begin to realize what the potential is – what your potential is. That takes some work.

Anyone can adopt a set of skills and get a job. It takes an awakened being to tap into your gifts and evolve yourself to produce amazing, impactful, lasting work designed out of what you love that leaves you feeling satisfied.

That’s living on purpose. That’s living with purpose. That’s you being at your best and loving it.




There are many tools out there to help you to get clarity. The one I love to use with clients is THE PASSION TEST. Three years after reading the book, I became certified to do the work of THE PASSION TEST with others. That was in 2011. I’ve been lucky enough to see the difference it makes in people’s lives.

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Find something that gets you off the sidelines and into the game. Playing in the game of life is fun. Scoring is very gratifying. There is a way to do it that keeps you true to who you are while bringing the people you care about with you. That’s your work. It doesn’t just happen, but people live like it’s supposed to.

You have a choice. You have options. Now you have the awareness. The rest is up to you.





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